He hates me!!

The hatred starts every morning when I wake him up from his deep slumber!! He is angry, cranky, irritated and makes it known by the screams, cries, pulling hair, biting and headbutts!! (No, it's not my punishment to him for doing the same things at night when I force him to sleep)..

Then is the next round: brushing!! Oh, he hates me.. I force him to brush, doesn't yield result.. Then I pin him down on my lap, hold his arms and brush his teeth.. That's the next round of crying..

Another reason he hates me is bcz I force feed him at times.. When I feel he's not eaten and might be hungry, I try to force him to eat.. No, I never succeed.. He always spits it out, cleans his tongue by rubbing it clean and then drink water to clear his mouth.. But his hatred is evident in his eyes and his howls..

Then is changing clothes.. There are days he's a water baby and we fight to get him out of the water.. But on few days I really have to fight to get him out of his clothes and into the shower or tub.. He hates me in either of the situation..

Pulling him back home after an hour with his friend or at the park is his biggest anger against me, after the anger of putting his toys away after he scatters it around the house..

The other reason he gets angry is because I don't give him cake, pizza or juice when he sees it on TV, when I put the TV off when it's way late into the night and he still wants to watch TV, locking the refrigerator to stop him from taking chocolates, eggs or juice, not opening the showcase to take out things from inside, the list is too long and new things gets added daily..

But do I stop doing things that makes him hate me?? Hell, no.. I can't.. Because I love him.. Some day he will realise that it's my love for him that made him hate me, but at that time he will have a kid who hates him for the same reason.. Because in this three years I realized why my dad did these things for me when I hated him too much and made so much of a fuss and cry during the early years of my life!!

Revital H

I recently came across this advert on TV showing Sonali Bendre trying to fit in time for doing things like drinking juice or having salads or going for a walk/run but something comes up and she can't do it.. That's what all of us women do.. The fact that Karena Kapoor shed her oodles of pregnancy weight gained within a year of her son's birth and she's back to looking fab versus me who gained marginal during my pregnancy but gained up and still piling up weight three years after the kiddo being born and blaming pregnancy for my looks shows what difference it makes by giving importance to yourself too..

I recently saw a fact where women hardly spend a few minutes to less than  an hour a week for their personal grooming (For men who complain about women spending hours getting ready, please take note).. Why do we take ourselves for granted?? Why is it that the kiddo and husband's needs are put before yours?? Why do you feel that you're not worth being considered important??

A woman is the wheel that spins the family.. If the man is the head of the family, the woman is the spine.. If she's not strong, if she isn't happy, she can't keep the family going.. So for peace and happiness in the family, you need to find it in yourself.. So ladies, take time for yourself, pursue your hobby, read a book, go for a jog or walk, meet friends, dance, do anything that pleases you.. Don't worry, the world won't crumble just because you're relaxing.. Because a happier you is a happier family!!