We end up planning the entire life time with that person, seeing the dreams of having a future with them.. After having spent a considerable amount in a relationship, you get accustomed to them.. No matter how painfully a relationship ends, it has its good memories and moments; you can never erase them!! As the one that I loved told me "Its not the goodbyes that hurts, its the flashbacks that follows!"
Everyday you remember them, long for them, forget them, replace them.. But end of day, you miss them!! Moving on is when you remember them lesser than before, need them lesser than before and miss them much much lesser than before!!! Its a journey that gets easier with time.. You can never forget or hate a person no matter how much they hurt you when you've genuinely loved them!! But their absence gets bearable with time!!
Its not easy, its not immediate!! Its a slow and gradual process.. Things reminds you of them, songs or instances remind you of them, some people remind you of them!! No matter how much you convince yourself, you end up remembering them!! You may have gone days without their topic or missing them but it all comes back like an avalanche!!
Lonely nights aren't a friend of the healing heart!! Its a painful time frame when all you wish is things to have been different, for that person to have been with you!! Whether you dump or have been dumped, the pain is real and is here to stay!! You may hate them all you want, you may remember them for all the pain they caused you.. But deep inside you wished they were the person you felt they were.. You wish you had the life you imagined!! You wish you would be with them expressing your feelings rather than penning it down..
Intellectually speaking you know its just a matter of time.. But the real quesion is "How much time before you learn to live without them... before you feel complete without them... before that person isn't the one you want to share your excitement or your pain with"... Until one day you find yourself asserting to yourself "Yes, its a beautiful tomorrow coming.. There's a complete healing on that horizon!! You just need to focus on that, the dawn is just arriving!!"
Someday, everything will make perfect sense. So for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, be strong and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.”
— John Mayer
Contribution by angelicones.blogspot.com
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