Say NO to Feminism

On the occasion of International Women's day, I wanna urge people to stop being feminists.. Its very strange to hear this from me: a self proclaimed vocal feminist.. But the need of the hour is to make EQUALITY so common that there's no need for someone advocating the basic rights of a human.. 

A feminist is basically advocating equal rights for a woman: equal rights in life, at work, at education and every other walk of life.. Our parents generation has been the transitional phase where girls have been raised to be independent, bold people having an opinion, choice and majorly given education.. We girls are now equal like boys in almost every sphere in life (some areas could improve but things are better). We have started choosing a career that interests us, a lifestyle that we wish to live, drive ourselves, fend for ourselves and decide for ourselves.. The women today are in so much better space than the parents generation..

But what went wrong? When women were taught to be independent, boys were still taught to be dependent.. They have not been raised with the basic training about life, they are not taught to fend for themselves.. We made our girls independent but we made the boys dependent so much that they do not know how to live outside the shade of their mothers.. And when they settle with an independent woman, they don't know how to handle her or life as they expect their partners to be like their moms, taking care of all the basic things..

Its time we raise our boys to be independent too.. If the girl is raised to chase the goals at work, we need to teach the boys to support her by doing the household chores.. Just like double income makes it easier to run a household, double the hands in the household chores makes it easier to run the house too..

I guess moms of boys like me can pledge to make the next generation boys to be the go getters because we girls are already there.. Now feminist me is here to raise the awareness about equality in both genders.. Yes, both of the genders have their uniqueness but only when we wipe gender stereotype outside the society can we succeed in equality.. .

Here's wishing that the international Men's Day be celebrated with the same zeal and pomp like women's day and women be respected and treated with dignity and cherished on every other day and not just the 8th of march..

Happy international Women's Day!! Cheers to being an all rounder and to help making many more people so..

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We are all stuck in our life with the conversation which we should have had, moments we should have lived, apologies we should have deserved!!

Well, it would have escaped your notice, LIFE ISN'T FAIR!!

Easier said than done to move on with these things still unresolved!!

The friend she'd like to loose!

He hugged her close, she felt cold instead of feeling warm.. She found warmth in her jacket, clinging on to it much tightly to provide her warmth!!

He was around her since a long time, slowly and gradually growing into her life, slowly and gradually becoming her friend without her even realising it!!

When she started getting acquainted with him, he seemed to be a solace, she seemed to find peace.. But eventually, his presence started disrupting her sanity..

She wished to go into another person's company, she tried to break his spell and find people like her whom she could connect with but he would always lull her back into the comfort of the known!!

People called her self content, self reliant, self sufficient.. Only if she could show them her friend, "Meet him, he's Loneliness - the only friend I've got"! 

Love

What is the purpose of our life? We have big ambitions, big dreams.. We wish to be successful, we wish a lot of things!! But what's life without someone to share that happiness with, unload your burdens to, be and have as a support??

Love isn't just a fairy tale feeling! Its not only the jitters and butterflies, not just the holding hands and exchanging glances.. Love is a strength: a strength to face any obstacle in life.. Love is an assurance of having someone by your side, someone to hold n cherish, to support and guide, to laugh and cry with!!!

As the most popular verse of the scripture states in 1. Corinthians 13 

⁴Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ⁸Love never fails. . .

Romans 13:8 reiterates "Owe nothing to no one but love" Further reading states that all other commandments can be summed in "Love one another!"

Here I am wondering out loud, didn't I love enough?? Didn't I genuinely give my all?? Didn't I stay in too long for the miracle of love to manifest?? Did I not do my responsibilities, put in sufficient efforts?? Is there anything more that I should have done?

I always believed that love conquers all.. I believed that love gives the strength.. But love destroyed my life.. It transformed an innocent, naive, trusting person into a very reserved person, a person who is always scared, someone who doubts the intention of every person..

Here I am, battling the thoughts in my head; unable to understand clearly what life ahead holds, clenching my little life's hands, answering his innocent questions without displaying how it kills me inside, feeling helpless about not giving him the sense of security the way he deserves or the kind of life he thinks about out loud, feeling the guilt knowing that I can't fulfill all his needs no matter how hard I try..

Yet, I will love him, as genuinely and truly as I can.. I wanted to give him a life where he is happy and secure, I still can give him that, there's no stopping it.. The little life I'm blessed with, the one that I love still stands as my strength!! Love definitely gives you the strength to face the challenges in life, the reason to fight and a reason to live!!

Love is a Wow or Love is a Woe, it just depends on the WHO!!

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I'm on a detox, removing toxicities from my system.

So if you're not hearing from me, you just learnt why!! 😜

My world in 3ft!

I did carry him 9 months, nurture him since then.. But when he was born, he gave birth to a mom.. A mom who loses her self and yet brings it all together seeing his face.. A mom who gets the motivation to do a lot of things knowing she's an example to the little one that looks up to her.. A mom who has enough reasons to give up under pressure but doesn't since she's gotta be the strength to the little guy..

He's the corner stone of my life, the one that this new life is based on.. He's my safe haven when I'm low.. He's my inner child that forgets the worries and lives in the moment.. He is just a little tiny being with his innocent smiles and endless chatters that just gives me the reason to carry on.. He is the one that makes me have a smile every night I lay down to sleep.. 

He doesn't realize how much comfort his hug means to me..

He doesn't understand how destressing it is to cuddle him every night..

He doesn't realize how much my heart melts when he tells me "I love you hundreds thousands"..

He doesn't understand how much he means to me nor can my words ever express them enough!!

All I can say to him is "You mean the world to me, my love!"  

He wouldn't even understand the depth of those words.. But he knows, I'll always have his back.. He will grow up to know I'm gonna be his strength, his guide, his friend, his mentor and the one that teaches him to survive this world.. Life isn't fair, we just gotta toughen up and face it; face it with confidence, live it with integrity, be open to an adventure and always be genuine and true!! These are my teachings for him and you!!!

They say that I gave him life, but they don't realize he gave me meaning for my life..

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There are just few things that cannot be fixed, the rest all mistakes always have a fix!!

Eg. When an omelette fails, turn it into scrambled eggs!! 

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