Dilemma of a mom

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DILEMMA OF A MOM!!

When I stayed home, I felt outdated and wasted. When I am away, I miss having the kid around and tending his needs. When I stayed home, I felt tired doing his chores. When I am away, I am worried if he would have eaten or slept. When I stayed home, I felt I was making my kid dependent  on me. When I am away, I fear he may not need me any further. Whether home or away, end of the day he hugs me and says that he loves me and my fears melt away!!

Seeing clearly

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After a long time she could see clearly.. The sunlight didn't bother her.. She didn't have to narrow her eye nor curse the sun.. The day was beautiful, the view was beautiful.. She couldn't believe that she missed all this daily while cursing the sun.. The half hour ride from Home to work seemed a pleasure and refreshing.. All she had to do was to go to the optician and get her sunglasses with power the previous day..

Self Activation mode

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The toilet realised it's dirty and hence it cleaned itself.. The bathroom realised it has become dirty and washed itself.. The washing machine realised that it was full so washed up the clothes.. The clothes realised it needs to be dried and stretched itself out.. The dried clothes decided to fold themselves and go in to the wardrobe.. The plates realised they were empty and hence cooked up food and later washed themselves and stacked away.. The leftover food judged themselves and kept themselves in the refrigerator or threw themselves away.. Others didn't understand why the woman was tired!!

Choice

Our lives are full of choices : from the time we wake till the time we sleep!! We choose what we want to do, how we want to do, when we want to do.. Happiness too is a choice.. They say, "don't let a minute of pain steal your fifty nine more which you could be happy ".. It's not easy, I know!!  But we can choose.. As the song says "count your blessings, name them one by one.. And it will surprise you what the Lord has done! "

We have pains in life, disappointments, fears but we also have happiness, excitement and love that negates them.. We may feel one area of our life is low, but there are so many areas that's high!! It's just a matter of perception.. We can choose what we want to focus on.. The area that we give more importance to, grows to occupy the most important place in our lives.. We can choose to give importance to the many happiness' or the few sadness'..

Easier said than done, a whole hearted effort in the right direction helps reach the goal, not immediately but gradually!!

He hates me!!

The hatred starts every morning when I wake him up from his deep slumber!! He is angry, cranky, irritated and makes it known by the screams, cries, pulling hair, biting and headbutts!! (No, it's not my punishment to him for doing the same things at night when I force him to sleep)..

Then is the next round: brushing!! Oh, he hates me.. I force him to brush, doesn't yield result.. Then I pin him down on my lap, hold his arms and brush his teeth.. That's the next round of crying..

Another reason he hates me is bcz I force feed him at times.. When I feel he's not eaten and might be hungry, I try to force him to eat.. No, I never succeed.. He always spits it out, cleans his tongue by rubbing it clean and then drink water to clear his mouth.. But his hatred is evident in his eyes and his howls..

Then is changing clothes.. There are days he's a water baby and we fight to get him out of the water.. But on few days I really have to fight to get him out of his clothes and into the shower or tub.. He hates me in either of the situation..

Pulling him back home after an hour with his friend or at the park is his biggest anger against me, after the anger of putting his toys away after he scatters it around the house..

The other reason he gets angry is because I don't give him cake, pizza or juice when he sees it on TV, when I put the TV off when it's way late into the night and he still wants to watch TV, locking the refrigerator to stop him from taking chocolates, eggs or juice, not opening the showcase to take out things from inside, the list is too long and new things gets added daily..

But do I stop doing things that makes him hate me?? Hell, no.. I can't.. Because I love him.. Some day he will realise that it's my love for him that made him hate me, but at that time he will have a kid who hates him for the same reason.. Because in this three years I realized why my dad did these things for me when I hated him too much and made so much of a fuss and cry during the early years of my life!!

Revital H

I recently came across this advert on TV showing Sonali Bendre trying to fit in time for doing things like drinking juice or having salads or going for a walk/run but something comes up and she can't do it.. That's what all of us women do.. The fact that Karena Kapoor shed her oodles of pregnancy weight gained within a year of her son's birth and she's back to looking fab versus me who gained marginal during my pregnancy but gained up and still piling up weight three years after the kiddo being born and blaming pregnancy for my looks shows what difference it makes by giving importance to yourself too..

I recently saw a fact where women hardly spend a few minutes to less than  an hour a week for their personal grooming (For men who complain about women spending hours getting ready, please take note).. Why do we take ourselves for granted?? Why is it that the kiddo and husband's needs are put before yours?? Why do you feel that you're not worth being considered important??

A woman is the wheel that spins the family.. If the man is the head of the family, the woman is the spine.. If she's not strong, if she isn't happy, she can't keep the family going.. So for peace and happiness in the family, you need to find it in yourself.. So ladies, take time for yourself, pursue your hobby, read a book, go for a jog or walk, meet friends, dance, do anything that pleases you.. Don't worry, the world won't crumble just because you're relaxing.. Because a happier you is a happier family!!

Mom's magic

When the things strewn around the house finds its way back to where it belongs, that's magic!! When yummy food appears on the table even before you realise you're hungry, it's magic!! When a simple hug and a kiss heals your pain whether physical or emotional, that's magic!! When your dirty clothes is washed, dried, folded and magically appears in your wardrobe, it's magic!!  And this magic has a name, we call her "MOM"!!!

She's the one you know you can count on to always have your back no matter how old your are or what situation you find yourself in.. She's the one who knows your need before you speak it out, she has been doing that since before you even began smiling(thats the first milestone in a baby's life FYI) !! She's the happy place, the comfort zone and the one who turns a mansion into a "HOME"!!