Self Activation mode

Momspresso Check out this interesting short story "Self Activation mode!!" by me. Read Here: https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/woman-s-tale/story/self-activation-mode

The toilet realised it's dirty and hence it cleaned itself.. The bathroom realised it has become dirty and washed itself.. The washing machine realised that it was full so washed up the clothes.. The clothes realised it needs to be dried and stretched itself out.. The dried clothes decided to fold themselves and go in to the wardrobe.. The plates realised they were empty and hence cooked up food and later washed themselves and stacked away.. The leftover food judged themselves and kept themselves in the refrigerator or threw themselves away.. Others didn't understand why the woman was tired!!

Choice

Our lives are full of choices : from the time we wake till the time we sleep!! We choose what we want to do, how we want to do, when we want to do.. Happiness too is a choice.. They say, "don't let a minute of pain steal your fifty nine more which you could be happy ".. It's not easy, I know!!  But we can choose.. As the song says "count your blessings, name them one by one.. And it will surprise you what the Lord has done! "

We have pains in life, disappointments, fears but we also have happiness, excitement and love that negates them.. We may feel one area of our life is low, but there are so many areas that's high!! It's just a matter of perception.. We can choose what we want to focus on.. The area that we give more importance to, grows to occupy the most important place in our lives.. We can choose to give importance to the many happiness' or the few sadness'..

Easier said than done, a whole hearted effort in the right direction helps reach the goal, not immediately but gradually!!

He hates me!!

The hatred starts every morning when I wake him up from his deep slumber!! He is angry, cranky, irritated and makes it known by the screams, cries, pulling hair, biting and headbutts!! (No, it's not my punishment to him for doing the same things at night when I force him to sleep)..

Then is the next round: brushing!! Oh, he hates me.. I force him to brush, doesn't yield result.. Then I pin him down on my lap, hold his arms and brush his teeth.. That's the next round of crying..

Another reason he hates me is bcz I force feed him at times.. When I feel he's not eaten and might be hungry, I try to force him to eat.. No, I never succeed.. He always spits it out, cleans his tongue by rubbing it clean and then drink water to clear his mouth.. But his hatred is evident in his eyes and his howls..

Then is changing clothes.. There are days he's a water baby and we fight to get him out of the water.. But on few days I really have to fight to get him out of his clothes and into the shower or tub.. He hates me in either of the situation..

Pulling him back home after an hour with his friend or at the park is his biggest anger against me, after the anger of putting his toys away after he scatters it around the house..

The other reason he gets angry is because I don't give him cake, pizza or juice when he sees it on TV, when I put the TV off when it's way late into the night and he still wants to watch TV, locking the refrigerator to stop him from taking chocolates, eggs or juice, not opening the showcase to take out things from inside, the list is too long and new things gets added daily..

But do I stop doing things that makes him hate me?? Hell, no.. I can't.. Because I love him.. Some day he will realise that it's my love for him that made him hate me, but at that time he will have a kid who hates him for the same reason.. Because in this three years I realized why my dad did these things for me when I hated him too much and made so much of a fuss and cry during the early years of my life!!

Revital H

I recently came across this advert on TV showing Sonali Bendre trying to fit in time for doing things like drinking juice or having salads or going for a walk/run but something comes up and she can't do it.. That's what all of us women do.. The fact that Karena Kapoor shed her oodles of pregnancy weight gained within a year of her son's birth and she's back to looking fab versus me who gained marginal during my pregnancy but gained up and still piling up weight three years after the kiddo being born and blaming pregnancy for my looks shows what difference it makes by giving importance to yourself too..

I recently saw a fact where women hardly spend a few minutes to less than  an hour a week for their personal grooming (For men who complain about women spending hours getting ready, please take note).. Why do we take ourselves for granted?? Why is it that the kiddo and husband's needs are put before yours?? Why do you feel that you're not worth being considered important??

A woman is the wheel that spins the family.. If the man is the head of the family, the woman is the spine.. If she's not strong, if she isn't happy, she can't keep the family going.. So for peace and happiness in the family, you need to find it in yourself.. So ladies, take time for yourself, pursue your hobby, read a book, go for a jog or walk, meet friends, dance, do anything that pleases you.. Don't worry, the world won't crumble just because you're relaxing.. Because a happier you is a happier family!!

Mom's magic

When the things strewn around the house finds its way back to where it belongs, that's magic!! When yummy food appears on the table even before you realise you're hungry, it's magic!! When a simple hug and a kiss heals your pain whether physical or emotional, that's magic!! When your dirty clothes is washed, dried, folded and magically appears in your wardrobe, it's magic!!  And this magic has a name, we call her "MOM"!!!

She's the one you know you can count on to always have your back no matter how old your are or what situation you find yourself in.. She's the one who knows your need before you speak it out, she has been doing that since before you even began smiling(thats the first milestone in a baby's life FYI) !! She's the happy place, the comfort zone and the one who turns a mansion into a "HOME"!!

Breaking the cocoon

We all know about the life cycle of a caterpillar, it forms a cocoon and struggles to break free and complete the transformation into a butterfly.. So is life for us..

We are born as helpless newborns who doesn't even know to smile.. The smile is the first milestone in the parental world.. Then from there to recognizing faces, turning to the sides, rolling over, holding the head, crawling, sitting up, holding things and standing then gradually walking to walking without help (then is the tiresome running everywhere and climbing everything, destroying stuffs and making the parents crazy) stages!!

Well, I felt that once the kid begins to walk on his own he becomes independent.. But now with the weaning stage over a couple of months ago, I realise that I'm letting go of a big thing that was a strong bond between us.. It was difficult to get the kiddo to sleep without his habit, but I realized its more difficult for me.. It's as if I'm sending him one more step away from me, a small step towards his independence.. I can never be ready for the day when he won't need me at all and such a day is inevitable but I'm preparing myself to accept it and preparing him for living his life without depending on anyone to manage his daily affairs.

The month his schooling begins is here and another big milestone for the kiddo.. He's just three and his learning routine is beginning now which will continue for couple of decades to come depending on his future aspirations.. He's a caterpillar beginning to break his cocoon while I can only watch him spread his wings and add colour to this world.. My small little boy is now entering a world of his own, and I can only stand and encourage, support and be proud of my little one's achievements, big or small!!

Disclaimer

"Mutual funds are subject to market risks. Please read the offer document carefully before investing." This is the most common disclaimer each of us know.. I guess you may have read it in the same pace they do in the advertisements.. It's the line that appears in fine print in the bottom end which is hardly noticed..

So does life comes with disclaimers!! We don't set out in a certain path expecting sadness or disappointments just like we don't invest in mutual funds expecting a loss.. But that's the risk associated with life.. We all set plans for the day, week, month, year and longer future.. But do we know how long is our future??

The subject of death has been doing rounds in the recent times, popular actress, a messenger of God, a tribal man in Kerala and the countless lives lost in war.. Every death is like a disclaimer that life is giving us "your life comes with a validity, bear it in mind everytime you make plans"..

Let's live to make every day count, everyday worth living!!